Do you need advice on how to forget about your ex and let go of the past?
Self-discovery through relationship tips and advice is definitely possible, in spite of what some skeptics might think. My DAILY JUSTISS publication on Medium is full of valuable information, to help people of all ages.
It doesn’t matter if you’re in high school, college, or whether you’re a middle-aged or older adult, seeking answers to questions about life. This is especially the case, when it comes to romantic breakups.
If you recently went through a breakup and you have a broken heart, this information can help. Don’t be discouraged by naysayers who talk down to readers of self-help books and guides.
Believe it or not, there are some individuals who believe that ALL relationship advice and self help tips are a waste of time. Maybe they have been listening to some bad opinions, or perhaps they just failed to follow the advice like it was given.
Whatever their reasoning, if a person is set on believing something will fail, there’s not a whole lot anyone can do about it.
Helpful Advice When You Use it
This story contains some genuinely helpful advice, but only if the reader plans to use it. No matter how many great tips someone offers, if your plan is to balk or complain that the advice won’t work, you’re probably right; it won’t work for YOU.
But if you allow it to, the following 10 tips can provide just the reminders you need, to help you stop thinking about your ex, and put them out your mind for good.
So before you start reading, ask yourself: Am I really ready to let him or her go, and am I prepared to do what it takes to make that a reality? If your answer is yes, then let’s get at it.
Breakups are difficult to endure. One of the hardest things to do after a bad breakup is learning how to release the past. Even if it has been weeks or months since the official split, you may still find yourself clinging to any and every thing that reminds you of your ex.
This is only natural, but if you keep this behavior up for too long, it starts to become unhealthy. Sometimes, the best thing to do is just to use the band aid approach. In this instance, ripping the band aid off the wound would amount to ending your relationship cold-turkey.
To do this, you need to do the opposite of what you have probably been doing. Instead of finding reasons to think, talk, or even run into your former mate, you need to make a point to avoid anything that relates to or reminds you of them.
Of course, this may seem a little extreme, but it is only until you get over that stage of: “I just gotta see” him or her, or “I just want to listen to their voice”.
Once the real healing starts, it won’t be as difficult to be reminded of the broken relationship. Until then, stay on your guard and keep taking steps to release the past.
The following 10 tips can help:
- Stop all unnecessary communication with him until it doesn’t hurt anymore
- Don’t keep driving past their home or office, just to see…?
- Put any photos, keepsakes and other items connected to them out of sight
- Stop finding reasons to talk about them or slip their name into the conversation
- Stop inquiring about “how they’re doing” to mutual friends and associates
- Resist the urge to follow them or their activities on social media
- For a while, limit or discontinue spending time with mutual friends of yours
- Avoid favorite places or common hangouts where the two of you spent time
- Avoid music, movies, and locations that remind you of them
- Live your life and start creating new friends, favorite places, and memories
As you can see, it may take a little effort to get your former lover off your mind and heart, but you can do it if you really want to. No matter how lonely you get or how much you start to miss them, playing familiar songs that only make you cry won’t help!
Neither will sobbing your eyes out while desperately clutching their picture to your chest. Dwelling about how much you miss them is self-destructive and doesn’t help you one bit.
Some people take a whole other approach and waste time and energy hating their ex. But believe it or not, using their photo for target practice while gulping down a fifth of Tequila is also counter-productive.
You can’t waste your time staying angry at them orpining away for your dead relationship. Start focusing your attention on you and what makes you happy.
These were just a few tips and practical advice to help get you on the right path. If you pay attention to the ten items mentioned above, you will find the new path of self discovery you’re on to be very enlightening.
But with all the activities you have to cut out, and DON’T do, just to get your ex out of your system, there are actually a few things you should do. They are:
- Get dressed up for you.
- Smell good for you.
- Prepare a special meal for you.
- Take yourself out for a night on the town
- Learn to pamper and spoil yourself
Do whatever it takes to snap you out of the downward spiral you keep falling into whenever you think about that ex-lover.
Allow the advice and practical suggestions you find here to work for you, and whether you believe it or not, you will be able to completely get over a past relationship successfully.
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